What to Text Your Crush: 100 Texts That Actually Start Conversations

Pick Your Vibe: The Friendly-to-Flirty Scale

Not every text needs to be flirty. In fact, if you don’t know your crush very well yet, starting friendly is smarter. Every list below is marked with one of these levels:

Rule of thumb: go one level at a time. If they reply to friendly texts with the same energy (fast replies, questions back, emojis), you can try a little flirty. If they keep it short, stay friendly.

First Texts to Send Your Crush (1–12)

The first message is the hardest. The trick is to give them something to respond to besides “hey.” Mention something you share: a class, a show, a funny moment.

1. “Hey! It’s [name] from [class/practice]. Did you understand anything in today’s lesson? Because I didn’t 😅”
2. “Okay, I need your honest opinion on something important: best pizza topping?”
3. “You mentioned [show/game] the other day and now I’ve started it. Please tell me it gets better after episode 2.”
4. “Random question but you seem like the right person to ask: cats or dogs?”
5. “Saw this and immediately thought of you 😂” (with a meme or video)
6. “Do you have the notes from [class]? I may or may not have been daydreaming.”
7. “What song are you playing on repeat right now? I need new music.”
8. “Hey, how did your [test/game/audition] go? You seemed nervous about it.”
9. “I just realized I don’t actually know your favorite movie. That feels like important info.”
10. “Settle a debate for me: is a hot dog a sandwich?”
11. “Hey! Got your number from [friend]. Hope that’s okay. Just wanted to say hi 👋”
12. “That thing you said today was so funny, I’m still laughing about it.”

Conversation Starter Questions (13–24)

Questions keep a chat alive, and thoughtful ones go a long way. In Hinge’s 2025 Gen Z report, 85% of daters said they were more likely to want a second date when they were asked thoughtful questions. Same idea works over text: ask something they’ll actually enjoy answering.

13. “What’s something you’re weirdly good at?”
14. “If you could eat only one food forever, what would it be?”
15. “What’s the best thing that happened to you this week?”
16. “What’s your comfort show? The one you rewatch when you’re sad.”
17. “If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you go?”
18. “Are you a morning person or a stay-up-till-2am person?”
19. “What’s the most random thing on your bucket list?”
20. “What’s a song that instantly puts you in a good mood?”
21. “Would you rather be able to fly or be invisible?”
22. “What’s something most people don’t know about you?” 🟡
23. “What’s your idea of a perfect weekend?” 🟡
24. “Okay, honest answer: what was your first impression of me?” 🟡

Want more? Our full list of questions to ask your crush has dozens more, and the questions to ask your girlfriend list works great once things get serious.

Funny Texts to Send Your Crush (25–34)

Making someone laugh is one of the easiest ways to stand out. In a Pew Research Center survey of US teens, sharing something funny or interesting online was among the most common ways teens showed a crush they were interested (46% had done it, in 2015 data).

25. “Scientists say texting me back improves your mood by 100%. I don’t make the rules.”
26. “I was going to text you something smart but my brain said no.”
27. “On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you regret giving me your number?”
28. “Breaking news: local person (me) is very bored and needs entertainment (you).”
29. “Quick, describe your day using only three emojis.”
30. “I’ve just spent 20 minutes watching videos of ducks. How’s your day going?”
31. “If you were a vegetable, you’d be a cute-cumber. Sorry. I had to.” 🟡
32. “My phone was feeling lonely so I decided to text you.” 🟡
33. “Rate my excuse for texting you: I forgot what I was going to say.” 🟡
34. “Are you a parking ticket? Because you’ve got fine written all over you.” (Use only if you both love terrible pickup lines.) 🟡

Cute Texts, From Friendly to Flirty (35–46)

These say “I like talking to you” without a big confession. They’re listed roughly from safest to boldest.

35. “Talking to you is honestly the best part of my day.”
36. “You have the best laugh. Just saying.”
37. “I heard [song] today and thought of you.”
38. “You always know how to make me smile.”
39. “Is it weird that I was hoping you’d text me?”
40. “I feel like I can talk to you about anything.”
41. “Okay but why are you so easy to talk to?”
42. “I keep thinking about that conversation we had. You’re really interesting, you know that?”
43. “You looked really nice today, by the way.” 🩷
44. “Not to be dramatic, but you’re kind of my favorite person to text.” 🩷
45. “I smile every time I see your name pop up. Is that embarrassing to admit?” 🩷
46. “I think I like you a little more than a friend 🙈” 🩷

If text #46 is the one you really want to send, read our guide on how to tell your crush you like them first. It has scripts for every situation and what to say back whatever they answer.

Good Morning and Goodnight Texts (47–58)

These work best once you’re already texting regularly. Out of nowhere, a good morning text can feel like a lot. Once you’re chatting most days, it’s sweet.

Good morning

47. “Good morning! Hope your day is as nice as you are ☀️”
48. “Morning! Good luck on your test today. You’ve got this.”
49. “Rise and shine! Coffee or tea person?”
50. “Woke up and the first thing I wanted to do was text you. Morning!”
51. “Good morning! What’s one thing you’re looking forward to today?”
52. “Morning ☀️ Sending you good vibes for the day.”

Goodnight

53. “Goodnight! Thanks for making my day better 🌙”
54. “Okay I really should sleep now. Talk tomorrow?”
55. “Night! Don’t stay up too late watching videos (says me, who will).”
56. “Sweet dreams! Tell me if you dream about anything weird.”
57. “I always end up texting you way later than I planned. Goodnight 😴”
58. “Goodnight. I really liked talking to you today.”

When the Conversation Is Dying (59–66)

Every chat slows down sometimes. These texts restart things, whether it went quiet an hour ago or a couple of weeks ago.

59. “Okay, new topic: what’s the best thing you’ve watched lately?”
60. “I just remembered you never told me how [thing they mentioned] went!”
61. “Two truths and a lie, go. I’ll guess.”
62. “Hey stranger! It’s been a minute. How’ve you been?”
63. “This reminded me of our conversation about [topic] 😂” (with a meme)
64. “Would you rather: never use social media again, or never watch a movie again?”
65. “I need a recommendation. Book, show, song, anything. Go.”
66. “Quick poll: what should I have for dinner?”

Fun fact for slow chats: a few rounds of truth or dare questions over text can bring any conversation back to life.

After You Hang Out (67–74)

Texting after spending time together shows you enjoyed it. Send something the same day or the next morning.

67. “I had so much fun today. Thanks for hanging out!”
68. “I’m still laughing about [funny moment] 😂”
69. “Did you get home okay?”
70. “That was the best [movie/ice cream/walk] I’ve had in a while. Mostly because of the company.”
71. “We should definitely do that again soon.”
72. “Okay, you were right about [thing]. Don’t let it go to your head.”
73. “Today was really nice. I like spending time with you.” 🩷
74. “Same time next week? 😊” 🩷

Texts to Ask Your Crush to Hang Out (75–82)

Specific and low pressure is the winning combo. Suggest an actual plan so they have something easy to say yes to.

75. “Want to get bubble tea after school on Friday?”
76. “There’s a new [movie] out this weekend. Want to go?”
77. “A few of us are going to [place] on Saturday. You should come!” (Group plans are a great, easy first step.)
78. “Want to study together for the test? I’ll bring snacks.”
79. “I’ve been wanting to try [café/park/place]. Come with me?”
80. “Free this weekend? I owe you a [drink/ice cream] for helping me with homework.”
81. “We talk so much over text. We should hang out in person sometime.”
82. “Would you want to hang out, just the two of us?”

Stuck on where to go? Here are some easy first date ideas that don’t feel too intense.

Birthdays, Holidays and Big Days (83–90)

Special days are the perfect excuse to text. Nobody will think it’s weird.

83. “Happy birthday! 🎉 Hope today is amazing.”
84. “Happy birthday! Wanted to be one of the first to say it 🎂” 🟡
85. “Good luck in your game today! I’ll be cheering.”
86. “Congrats on [achievement]! That’s honestly so cool.”
87. “Merry Christmas / Happy holidays! Hope you’re getting lots of food and rest 🎄”
88. “Happy New Year! Here’s to a good one 🎆”
89. “Exams are almost over! What are you doing first when they’re done?”
90. “Happy Valentine’s Day 💕 Just wanted to make you smile.” 🟡

If Your Crush Left You on Read (91–95)

First: breathe. People miss messages, get busy, or freeze when they don’t know what to say. Wait at least a day, then send one light follow-up. If there’s still no reply, let it go.

91. “Haha no worries if you’re busy! Just wanted to show you that.”
92. “Hope your week’s going okay!”
93. “Totally forgot to ask, how did [thing] go?”
94. “This made me laugh and I thought you’d like it 😂” (a new meme, not a reminder)
95. “Didn’t mean to make things weird before. All good either way!”

Voice Notes, GIFs and Photos (96–100)

Text isn’t the only option. According to Hinge’s 2025 Gen Z report, 35% of Gen Z daters said they wanted to receive more voice notes. Hearing your voice feels more personal than typed words.

96. A 10-second voice note: “Okay I have to tell you this story, it’s too long to type.”
97. A GIF reaction to something they said (it’s funnier than “lol”).
98. A photo of something that reminded you of them: “Look what I found 👀”
99. A song link: “This one’s for you. Tell me what you think.”
100. A voice note singing (badly) happy birthday. Guaranteed reply.

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